Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others. It is appropriately direct, open, and honest communication which is self enhancing and expressive. Acting assertively enhances self confidence.
You are behaving assertively when you express your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in direct, honest ways that do not violate another personÃ¢€™s integrity.
You are behaving aggressively when you express your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in ways that humiliate, degrade, belittle, or overpower the other person.
You are behaving non-assertively when you fail to express honest feelings, thoughts and beliefsÃ¢€“ or express them in such an apologetic, diffident, or self-effacing way that others can easily disregard them.
Assertiveness is based on balance. It requires being forthright about your wants and needs while still considering the rights, needs, and wants of others. When you are assertive, you ask for what you want but you donÃ¢€™t necessarily get it.
Aggressive behavior is based on winning. It requires that you do what is in your own best interest without regard for the rights, needs, feelings or desires of others. When you are aggressive, you take what you want regardless, and you donÃ¢€™t usually ask.
Value yourself and your rights